{"id":1754,"date":"2022-02-15T12:23:24","date_gmt":"2022-02-15T02:23:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/about-2-2\/"},"modified":"2024-10-14T06:47:13","modified_gmt":"2024-10-13T20:47:13","slug":"helping-youth-find-balance","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/helping-youth-find-balance\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping Your Clients Find Balance"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-page\" data-elementor-id=\"1754\" class=\"elementor elementor-1754\" data-elementor-post-type=\"page\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12d13bd e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"12d13bd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-957b9f2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"957b9f2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" 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srcset=\"https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/CARING-CONTINUUM-SHADOW-768x543.jpg 768w, https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/CARING-CONTINUUM-SHADOW-300x212.jpg 300w, https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/CARING-CONTINUUM-SHADOW-1024x724.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/CARING-CONTINUUM-SHADOW-1536x1086.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/drtoulagordillo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/CARING-CONTINUUM-SHADOW.jpg 1754w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<figcaption class=\"widget-image-caption wp-caption-text\">The 80\/20 Balance: a SIT Tool that describes caring and behavioural\/mental health<\/figcaption>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3804739 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3804739\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>For many years, Dr Toula has taught and counselled individuals who demonstrate behaviour that may be considered \u2018out of balance\u2019. Notwithstanding other factors, they often display unhealthy levels of caring. Unbalanced caring forms the base of what Toula calls <strong>\u2018Fearful Frog\u2019<\/strong>\u00a0behaviour (extreme over-caring) or\u00a0<strong>\u2018Stinging Scorpion\u2019<\/strong> behaviour (extreme under-caring). This concept is discussed in Dr Toula&#8217;s Frog and Scorpion SIT Solutions book series.\u00a0<\/p><figure id=\"attachment_1040\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1040\"><\/figure><p>Toula regularly uses\u00a0<em>The Scorpion and The Frog<\/em> fable as bibliotherapy. She discusses the caring levels depicted in the fable, and subsequent behaviours, can impact negatively upon a person\u2019s life\u2026 including their mental health.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54cc2942 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"54cc2942\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-13c6130 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"13c6130\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3f3ee8c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3f3ee8c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Toula\u2019s \u2018Frog\u2019 and \u2018Scorpion\u2019 metaphors are based on the adaptation of a 3000 year old Aesop\u2019s fable:\u00a0<em>The Farmer and The Viper.\u00a0<\/em>The story is known today as\u00a0<em>The Scorpion and The Frog,\u00a0<\/em>and there are variations of this fable around the world. For example, Star Trek\u2019s version entitled\u00a0<em>The Scorpion and The Fox\u00a0<\/em>(see below<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e62fbd e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"2e62fbd\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-56e9f27 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"56e9f27\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<script src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/embed\/medias\/kph023gz0i.jsonp\" async><\/script><script src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/assets\/external\/E-v1.js\" async><\/script><div class=\"wistia_responsive_padding\" style=\"padding:56.25% 0 0 0;position:relative;\"><div class=\"wistia_responsive_wrapper\" style=\"height:100%;left:0;position:absolute;top:0;width:100%;\"><div class=\"wistia_embed wistia_async_kph023gz0i seo=true videoFoam=true\" style=\"height:100%;position:relative;width:100%\"><div class=\"wistia_swatch\" style=\"height:100%;left:0;opacity:0;overflow:hidden;position:absolute;top:0;transition:opacity 200ms;width:100%;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/embed\/medias\/kph023gz0i\/swatch\" style=\"filter:blur(5px);height:100%;object-fit:contain;width:100%;\" alt=\"\" aria-hidden=\"true\" onload=\"this.parentNode.style.opacity=1;\" \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9f590cd e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"9f590cd\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b02f6b5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b02f6b5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em><strong>How Toula uses the fable in counselling<\/strong><\/em><\/p><p>In her work as a practicing Clinical psychologist and Jungian\/SIT psychotherapist, Dr Toula generally commences with a description of the fable before using other SIT tools. Dr Toula then discusses with the young person ways in which extreme levels of over- or under-caring could be impacting upon their behavioural and\/or mental health.<\/p><p>*Together with a colleague, Dr Mike Symonds and staff from local community organisations, Dr Toula conducted research regarding the effectiveness of using <em>The Scorpion and The Frog<\/em>\u00a0fable as a mental health message re-framing and illumination tool. It was found to be effective, according to clients\u2019 self-report data (N=190), and Toula presented her findings at the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/mentalhealthaustralia.org.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/bop15.pdf\">I<\/a>nternational Mental Health Conference hosted by the Australia and New Zealand Mental Health Association in 2015.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-84dcc97 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"84dcc97\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Why Stories & Images for Social Anxiety<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7ee68fb elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"7ee68fb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<script src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/embed\/medias\/b3hdgzcf8g.jsonp\" async><\/script><script src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/assets\/external\/E-v1.js\" async><\/script><div class=\"wistia_responsive_padding\" style=\"padding:56.25% 0 0 0;position:relative;\"><div class=\"wistia_responsive_wrapper\" style=\"height:100%;left:0;position:absolute;top:0;width:100%;\"><div class=\"wistia_embed wistia_async_b3hdgzcf8g seo=true videoFoam=true\" style=\"height:100%;position:relative;width:100%\"><div class=\"wistia_swatch\" style=\"height:100%;left:0;opacity:0;overflow:hidden;position:absolute;top:0;transition:opacity 200ms;width:100%;\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/fast.wistia.com\/embed\/medias\/b3hdgzcf8g\/swatch\" style=\"filter:blur(5px);height:100%;object-fit:contain;width:100%;\" alt=\"\" aria-hidden=\"true\" onload=\"this.parentNode.style.opacity=1;\" \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8337060 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"8337060\" data-element_type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>HELPING TO FIND BALANCE The 80\/20 Balance: a SIT Tool that describes caring and behavioural\/mental health For many years, Dr Toula has taught and counselled individuals who demonstrate behaviour that may be considered \u2018out of balance\u2019. 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